You’ve got to take these things into account before concluding that women are trading beauty for money.”“Rather, hearteningly, people really are looking for … Finding those things is driven by matching one’s strengths with a partner who’s similarly endowed, rather than trying to barter kindness for hotness, humor for conscientiousness, cultural savvy for handyman-ship, or graduate degrees for marketable skills.” The fact is, reports Mc Clintock, women value men’s attractiveness just as much their wallets.
They don’t want a match so much as a jackpot.”“Women spend a lot more time trying to look good than men do,” Mc Clintock said. If you don’t take that into account then you actually see there’s a lot of these guys who are partnered with women who are better looking than them, which is just because, on average, women are better looking. And men earn more than women—we’ve got that 70-percent wage gap—so women marry ‘up’ in income.
You made plans for dinner, invited her to the movies, and took her to the club. And when you looked into her eyes, glanced at her lips, inched closer... to listen to the same music and to see the same people.
And she had a great time because you were attentive, charming and hilarious. But when you wanted to have sex with her for the first time...
In real-life dating studies, which get closer to genuine intentions, physical attractiveness and earning potential strongly predict romantic attraction…On these “consensually-ranked” traits, people seem to aspire to partners who rank more highly than themselves.
Status (however you want to measure it: income, formal education, etcetera) is often not far behind.
Yes, “physical attractiveness is exquisitely, at times incomparably, important to both men and women.
A really interesting article by James Hamblin in the Atlantic goes deeper.
And men value women’s kindness and personality just as much as their looks.However men were less concerned with cash - as 96 per cent of them told researchers they were not bothered if they female date was a bigger earning high-flyer.But only half of men looking for love said they expected the offer to split the expense from their female date.Most men don’t want to be sugar daddies, most women don’t want to be gold diggers, and, as a result, the vast majority of us are not.When most women are referring to high status/sough-after men, they usually if not always mean very good-looking/handsome AND wealthy/rich/famous.