(The Frisky) -- Let's face it -- we've all got issues and sometimes need multiple attempts to surmount emotional obstacles. Here's the important thing to remember: The Addict will ALWAYS be looking for a high. Even if he is sober from drugs/alcohol/gambling/food, if he hasn't done "the work," he may get hooked on you. That's why it's bad news if that relationship has gone wrong in some way. Whether he hates her or is obsessed with her, he is blind to the fact that he is replaying his relationship with his mom with every woman he gets involved with.
But some of us are better at dealing with them than others and, we argue, women are often better at working through emotional problems than men. " To which we reply, "Smell ya later." And so should you. The Frisky: 25 signs he is not relationship material The woman he wants: Someone who gets him high. Maybe it's the married woman, his crush from high school he never thought he would get, or the ex he dumped years ago. The Frisky: A dress made for Coco's assets The woman he wants: Someone who is exactly like his mother or exactly the opposite, depending on the nature of the dysfunction.
A relationship with the wrong individual however can lead to years of heartache, emotional/social damage, and even physical damage.
A damaging adult partner can damage us, damage our loved ones, and even damage the way we feel about love and romance in the future.
It is very informative and discusses some of the warning signs of emotional and physical abuse to look for within dating relationships.
In the first few weeks and months of dating, as our best selves are presented, we've found ourselves thinking, Finally, a guy who isn't emotionally stunted! But at some point, the curtain is pulled back just like in the "Wizard of Oz" and, yup, his emotional issues are right there. If his mother expected him to be "the man of the family," he may be looking for a woman who is helpless and needs taking care of. What he really needs: To realize that you are NOT his mother.
The Frisky: 12 stars posing using hands as bras Don't get us wrong: Women can be emotionally stunted too. And, more importantly, to understand the relationship dynamic with his mother.
And that brings me to the point of today's article.
If you truly wish to create amazing relationships with the women in your life, picking up women is only part of the picture.